Get in Shape

Hey guys... you know all those bikini-clad babes you like to see at the beach or the pool or whatever with the great bodies that you like to look at and get in trouble for looking at? Yeah... your partner probably likes seeing people with a good body too. Why don't you get in shape? I do it with a Chinese martial art that I like training, when I'm not doing yoga with my lady. In shape people are often considered quite attractive, which might lead to more of those "benefits" I've mentioned before.

If you do decide to get in shape (for yourself or your other or both), you could do it with that person or alone, but in either case, you shouldn't let it become an opportunity to be a selfish jerk. Your getting-in-shape time doesn't buy your way out of doing your part around the house or with the family, for instance, so this isn't like free "guy time."

As for looking at those people, by the way, looking is usually okay as long as you don't look with any real interest in what you're seeing. The trick is teaching yourself that you don't really have real interest in what you're seeing, no matter how nice it looks. The policy, therefore, that good men live by isn't "I can look but won't touch," it's "I can look but don't care." How do you develop that? Well, it's tough... but it starts with truly valuing, admiring, and appreciating the other that you have right now as that person is. If you can't do that, then I suggest you work really hard at trying to develop it! In the future, I'll try to make a really good post about how you can learn to really admire and appreciate the person that you're with at this very moment, as my wife puts it, "flaws and all."